There you are…stirring in your bed the night before the holiday gathering as you think about the unfiltered comments of your extremely vocal relatives hitting you such as “Wow, it looks like you’ve packed on a few pounds, eh?” or “So..when are more kids on the way?”
It’s inevitable that these comments will most likely be shared, because well, we simply can’t control others. But, the good news is that we can control ourselves, in both how we respond as well as how we want to manage our waistline this holiday season.
Below are a few tips on how to stay grounded and healthy during the holidays:
BYOD: Bring your own dish! Clients are always asking me how to cleverly maneuver around social gatherings. The easiest way is to bring your own dish that is compliant to the way of eating you’re currently vibin’ with (Whole30, Paleo, GF, you name it). Search to find a recipe that is both snackable and delicious while testing it at home to ensure you’ll be proud of your work! When you bring it, you don’t necessarily have to announce across the table that it is a “healthy” dish, but when guests ask you what it is, use some descriptive words to paint a delicious picture for them. You will be surprised at how many guests will be willing to try it, while some may even pull you to the side later to ask for the recipe.
Don’t leave the house hungry: HANGRY - most of us are familiar with this term by now and more importantly, we know that we do not want to find ourselves in the dark & famished place, especially around family. In addition to keeping some snacks in your purse or pocket, make it a point to check in with yourself an hour before the event. Ask yourself - “Am I hungry?” Even if the answer is maybe, have a snack or at least bring a snack with you that you can nibble on while you’re en route to the gathering. Lastly, make sure the snack is nutrient dense and not sugary so it won’t affect your blood sugar levels.
Get grounded the night before: The evening before the big day, spend some time meditating, journaling, praying, practicing some yin yoga, etc. so you bring forth your most balanced self on the holiday. If there is one specific person that you are anxious about seeing, try practicing some visualization techniques like envisioning yourself having a peaceful interaction with this person, or perhaps you even practice them saying their classic unfiltered comment, while you practice stating what your response will be.
Remember to come from a place of compassion: At the end of the day, I like to believe that we are all doing our best in each moment. Sure, we make mistakes from time to time, who doesn’t? Try your best not to be quick to judge when that “crazy aunt” throws her aggressive comment at you across the dinner table and remember your manners with kindness and compassion this holiday season.